I would like to ask you a question: how do you your value yourself? How do you perceive what you are worth? On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate yourself? (One [1] being the lowest, ten [10] being the highest.) For most people, this is a difficult question to answer, and often when we answer, our value tilts to the lower balance of the scale. Why do you think that is? Perhaps it is because we are our harshest judges. If you asked this same question of someone else, how they value you, their number would oppose your own. More than likely, it would be on the upper end of the scale.
While we see ourselves through very judgemental eyes, others view us differently. They watch the way we treat others, how we interact in a variety of situations, if we go out of our way, if we put others before ourselves, and so much more. Yet, when we consider ourselves, we notice our flaws. The imperfections. This is the way we reason not allowing ourselves a higher ranking. Our measuring stick for ourselves and towards others vastly differs.
If someone we place a high value on, such as a parent, teacher, best friend, spouse, etc., treats us as if we aren’t valuable, then we knock ourselves down even more. We become more critical of who we are, what we are doing, and how we are doing it. This can lead to a spiral of depression, self-deprecation, and more. If they treat us better, we innately don’t feel that they are placing the right value on us. That their perception is skewed. Yet, the only value that we should concern ourselves with is the one God has given us.
“For God so [greatly] loved and dearly prized the world, that He [even] gave His [One and] [a]only begotten Son, so that whoever believes and trusts in Him [as Savior] shall not perish, but have eternal life.” John 3:16 [Amplified Bible]
What an amazing thing that God holds us so precious and valuable that He sent His only son to pay for our sins! Can you imagine giving up your only child to die for someone else’s sin? Would you be willing to sacrifice your only child in order to save someone else?
Further, He cares for us so deeply that He knows every part of our fabric because He intentionally created us! He designed you with purpose!
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you [and approved of you as My chosen instrument],
And before you were born I consecrated you [to Myself as My own];I have appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5
Have you ever watched a master artisan as they are working? They take their time to select the best materials for the job. They spend time planning, preparing and then forming their artistic piece with their hands, creating a unique and wonderful piece of art.
That is what we are! God has created every one of us, knowing who we would be and giving us the free will to come to Him in our time. He doesn’t force Himself on us.
“For You formed my innermost parts;
You knit me [together] in my mother’s womb.” Psalms 139:13
My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was being formed in secret,
And intricately and skillfully formed [as if embroidered with many colors] in the depths of the earth. Psalms 139:15
God loves you! God loves me! He knows who we are, and He still puts such a high value on us that He sent His ONLY son to die for us in order to redeem us and make sure we would always be with Him! Wow! Think about how amazing that is! You are valuable and important. Sometimes, we need to step back from what we are feeling or thinking about and look at it from another perspective.
The next time you want to de-value yourself, that you think you aren’t worth anything, stop listening to negative words from man and remember the value God has placed on you. Remember that you are both planned and chosen. That you are not a mistake but a beautifully crafted individual created with purpose! How cool is that?